Many neurodivergent people describe a particular kind of tiredness: spending the whole day translating yourself into a language other people find easier to follow. As a counsellor who isn't a specialist but works with a good number of autistic and ADHD clients, I look at the idea of double empathy, why the adapting shouldn't always fall on one person, and how counselling for neurodivergent people can adjust to you: structure, the room, fidget toys and walking sessions.